Demystifying Fellowship Ep 1

“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?”

  — 2 Corinthians 6:14.

This message is a call to the believers, especially in light of the command: “Do not be unequally yoked.” The key idea here is not just about being yoked—it’s about fellowship. That’s where the real demand lies. It’s possible to be yoked together and still lack fellowship. Even among the righteous, you can be yoked and yet not have fellowship, because fellowship is a much deeper reality. I’ve said before, fellowship is intercourse, a deep exchange. It requires trust, openness, and confidence. There must be nothing hidden.

You may be yoked with your family members, but still lack fellowship with them because there’s no freedom, no openness. So, there must be a deeper grounding in this relationship. The basis upon which we are yoked must fulfill the very demands of fellowship. We can be equally yoked with other believers through Christ; we’re in the same family by His name. But that doesn’t automatically mean we have fellowship. Fellowship is something deeper.

Even with God, just because you’ve received Jesus doesn’t mean you’re always in fellowship with Him. Many of us claim to be born again, but that doesn’t guarantee ongoing fellowship. These two things; being saved and being in fellowship, must come into perfect agreement for the relationship to sustain itself. That’s why Paul warns: “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.”

Why? Because there can be no real agreement between belief systems that are in conflict. The term “unbelievers” here doesn’t mean they believe in nothing but they often believe in something else. They may believe in mountain gods, water spirits, or other deities. They are unbelievers in the sense that they do not believe in Jesus. But to their own systems, we are also unbelievers. This is a two-way reality. So when Paul gives this instruction in 2 Corinthians 6:14, he’s warning the Church in Corinth not just about superficial connection, but about the power of influence that comes through such yoking. If you unite with someone who believes differently, their influence can begin to shape and weaken your faith. It’s a serious caution.

Amos asks: “Can two walk together unless they agree?” The answer is no. Agreement is foundational to true fellowship. Paul lays out the difference: righteousness vs. unrighteousness, light vs. darkness, Christ vs. Belial. The fellowship Paul talks about is based on nature; who you have become in Christ. Until the full nature of Christ is formed in us, our transactions in the Spirit remain limited. Real fellowship is rooted in openness, or “nakedness,” before God. Remember Adam in the garden, when he was naked before God, there was no shame. But once he covered himself, shame entered in. Why? Because intimacy was broken. That’s what true fellowship looks like no shame, no hiding. If you’re still hiding while worshiping, if you’re still reserved, it means the fellowship hasn’t yet reached its full expression in you. The problem may lie in you or in the person you’re trying to fellowship with. In either case, the issue is a lack of agreement in nature.

Let’s go deeper: Paul talks about three things in this scripture; yoking, fellowship, and communion. These are not the same. Yoking begins with belief systems aligning. Fellowship is tied to shared nature. Communion is about status; are you in light or in darkness?

This structure defines how a person operates with God. There’s a divine order: belief, nature, and status. God wants to align every aspect of your being; body, soul, and spirit into this order.

In 1 Corinthians 5:7-9, Paul says:

⁷ Purge out therefore the old leaven, that ye may be a new lump…
⁸ Therefore let us keep the feast… with the unleavened bread of sincerity and truth.
⁹ I wrote unto you… not to company with fornicators.

Paul connects leaven to corruption; malice, wickedness, fornication. These represent the nature of darkness and must be purged. Some fornicators are not only physically immoral; they are defiled in thought, word, and character. If there’s no truth and sincerity, there is spiritual fornication.

He then warns against dating or marrying unbelievers: “You think you can help them or save them? If God hasn’t saved them yet, who are you to think you can?” Love is not enough. The same love that should strengthen you can become your weakness. Many people become foolish for love, especially romantic love, which often leads to compromise. Women move into men’s homes, cook, clean, and even give their bodies all without the covenant of marriage because of this misguided love.

But the love of God doesn’t make you foolish. It doesn’t require you to lose your mind. So if you’re in love, carry your mind with you. Any love based on condition like “If you love me, you’ll sleep with me” is not genuine. God’s love is unconditional. He loves you even in your sin and seeks after you not because He’s bored, but because His nature is love. When you get married, you’ll realize: love alone doesn’t sustain a marriage. Many who love each other still get divorced. Lust is often mistaken for love. And when the excitement fades, the marriage collapses. What keeps people together is God’s presence and alignment with His will.

Now, the same principle applies in our relationship with God. Don’t come to God with conditions. True intimacy means receiving everything even His silence. If God is silent, you receive it with joy because He is still God. That’s the essence of intimacy.

In 1 John 1:6-7, Scripture says:

⁶ If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie…
⁷ But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another…

Truth is not just a statement it’s a function, a way of living. So you can say you have fellowship with God, but if you walk in darkness, you lie. There’s no truth in you.

Not every gathering is a gathering unto God. We can organize big meetings with powerful names, but if darkness is still in the hearts of those present, it’s a lie to say it’s fellowship with Him. Darkness separates us from God’s fellowship.

If a man walks in darkness and claims to have fellowship with God, he is deceiving himself. You cannot access the light unless you walk in the light. If you do come into the light, then the blood of Jesus cleanses you. Why? Because that light purges darkness. A sincere heart in the presence of God gets strengthened and transformed. If you walk into fellowship and leave unchanged; still carrying bitterness, pride, lust, or deceit; then it was not true fellowship. Real encounters with God leave a mark. They cleanse. They heal. They bring peace. God is not a busybody entertaining casual meetings. He transforms. He restores. He purifies.

So let every man examine himself: are you fellowshipping with light or darkness? If darkness is your nature, then your fellowship is with darkness. But if your nature is of light, you must walk in light, and in that light, your fellowship with God and with others becomes genuine.

Even witches and occultists fellowship with their deities and get strengthened. Fellowship is a source of power. Whether it’s of light or darkness, fellowship builds and empowers. The question is: What kind of fellowship are you part of? What nature are you walking in?

You can be of light, but what is attached to you can carry a sense of darkness within. The moment you, as a person of light, enter into the light and acknowledge your weakness, your darkness, then that darkness will be blotted out of you. But this only happens when a man truly enters that place of fellowship. Because you are of light, walking in light, when you enter into light, access is guaranteed. However, it is still possible to enter into light and come out without results.

We must understand that fellowship is not a place for asking for things; it is a place of openness, where God feeds Himself into you, and you feed yourself into God. It is an intercourse; that’s how intimate this relationship is. Now imagine: you have come into the place of fellowship, and God wants to feed Himself into you, but instead, you begin saying, “God, give me food.” God will see that this one is here not because of Me, but because of their need. It becomes evident in the Spirit. What you continually say becomes the language God also speaks.

Understand this: what a man always speaks forms how God will respond to that man. And often, God’s response is silent, yet it is the opposite of it. You may go into fellowship and ask, “Give me this or that,” and God says, “You came for fellowship, but you are making petitions.” Fellowship is not the place for asking. You came to commune with Me, and instead, you ask for things. Even the very thing you are asking for you will not receive, because you are asking in the wrong place.

This is why a man can enter fellowship, cry, “God, give me!” and come out with nothing because he asked amiss. If you understand the mystery of fellowship, you’ll realize that it is where men are strengthened. It is a mystery on its own. When God feeds Himself into a man, the effect is automatic. When God aligns Himself with a person, every darkness in that person must be blotted out. It is the purging of the Holy Ghost that takes place within a man.

That is why when a man enters fellowship, the One who dominates that realm is the Holy Ghost, God the Holy Spirit; the Spirit who flows.

This is echoed in John 4:23-24:
23 “But the hour cometh, and now is, when the true worshippers shall worship the Father in spirit and in truth: for the Father seeketh such to worship him.
24 God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth.”

Since God is Spirit, we must come after that order and ensure we align ourselves accordingly. The problem arises when men try to incline themselves to God while avoiding the Holy Ghost. But in that type of fellowship, the Spirit is essential. You begin to understand how crucial the Holy Spirit is in that conversation.

Ask yourself: Why does God demand that we worship Him in spirit and in truth? It means that, in such a setting, the triune God is present specifically, in the personality of the Holy Ghost. That’s why it requires the spirit to align with the Spirit. When that happens, a purging occurs within the man. He begins to grow in intimacy with God. This is a sacred intimacy between God and man.

That’s why you must be of light to enter into the same light. The essence of fellowship is not just singing songs of worship, not just preaching about Jesus, not merely gathering and saying, “We gather in the name of Jesus.” It’s one thing to gather in that name, but it’s another to truly be in the nature of the One whose name you call. This is a call for every one of us to open our eyes and see.

How strong is your fellowship with God? The day Adam left fellowship was the day man became ashamed and fell away from God. When a man is in right standing with God, God will find that man easily and will come to him effortlessly. But when a man is not in fellowship with God will always struggle to find him. Not because God doesn’t know where he is, but because of a disconnection in nature.

When the Father turned His face away from the Son on the cross. It was not because He was emotionally pained by the death of His Son, but because of the sin upon Him. Jesus had not sinned, but He became sin itself. And God could not relate to that nature, He had no business with it.

In that moment, Jesus disconnected from the divine circuit; not by choice, but because of the sin nature upon Him. But when sin died on the cross, its power was defeated. That means you now have the power to overcome sin in your own life. In the past, sin was too powerful for any man to defeat. But now, because sin was conquered on the cross, you walk in the triumph of that victory. You don’t fight to defeat sin; you stand in the victory of sin already defeated.

Therefore, if a man enters fellowship in the spirit of light, it is the same spirit of light that opens the door for him to enter. But if he comes in the spirit of darkness, while claiming to be of light, he will have no access. That man is deceiving himself. That is why the Bible admonishes us: “Discern every spirit.” You must have eyes that are open to see. If not, there’s a serious problem with that man.